Those two words “Just wait” have been the favorites of too many women I know. They are strange little words, because they seem to foretell the future through experience….their experience The interesting thing about reality, though, is that it’s all perception: your perception is your reality; it shapes your experience. Thus, if your perception is negative, so will be your experience and your reality.
I’ve heard it all over the last 9 months. Just wait until you’re vomiting your head off. Just wait until you can’t move. Just wait until the third trimester–you’re gonna be huge! Just wait until the swelling starts. Just wait until the baby’s kicking keeps you up at night. Just wait until you’re so miserable–you’ll be crying all the time. Just wait until the pain starts. Just wait until your eyes are all bruised from pushing. Just wait…..just wait…..just wait…..
Sadly, this “Just wait” mentality seems to trickle into everything for these people: their jobs, their children, their marriage, their health, etc. They are completely setting themselves up for failure on a wide scale. How sad! It’s bad enough that they do this to themselves, but what’s even worse is that they seem to thrive on trying to cause doubt and hysteria in other people. Why would you do this? How cruel and negative! Do you really get off on misery and if so, why? I recently read a great quote: “Who you are in labor is who you are in life.” Amazing….I’ve always said the same thing about health and fitness: “Who you are with your health is who you are in your life.” I call it the trickle down effect, and it’s amazing how the attitude it takes to get and stay healthy is what’s required to live a fulfilling life. I’ve found this to be true with pregnancy as well. It’s really all about attitude and perception. If you think things are going to suck beyond belief, guess what? They will! If you are confident, calm, peaceful, happy, stress-free, and believe whole-heartedly that things will fabulous, guess what? They just might be wonderful! I’ve had a wonderful pregnancy!
I refuse the “Just wait.” I refuse it from everyone whose been saying it. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy–you’ve sold out to societal expectations of drama, drama, drama. After all, drama sells! I hate drama with a passion! But I love passion, and that is what I’m full of. Passion for life, passion for joy, passion for blessings, passion for confidence. I open my heart to fulfillment, so if you’re a “Just Waiter” stay way! Keep your toxicity far, far away!
I agree with you completely. “Just wait” followed by the most terrifying thoughts of what is to come
makes me run the other way. My pregnancy was not the most happy time of my life. I was sick with toxemia but I always believed the baby growing inside of me..a miracle to itself..was having a great time kicking and moving around as she grew. I loved that I got to know her and she got to know me from reading everything from the newspaper to poetry by Frost and some of my own. She loved Mozart and the Rolling Stones and Bach as well. Today, as a grown women she turns to music to calm her. Music was in her DNA.
Lving a of life of “Just wait” is a way to doom any enjoyment there is in life. Even when a pregnancy is hard it is still a miracle, and to be treasured.
What concerns me is if all the folks that said to you “Just wait”,…how are their relationships with their kids now?
When I found out I was going to have a baby I felt like turning cartwheels! I
I stayed far away from those who had nothing better in their lives to do than complain.and wait for the worse possible outlook
It is my feeling that who we are during our pregnancy is not only who we are when we are not..but who we are during our pregnancy says a lot about who our child will be.
Sing on the highest mountain…you have a life growing inside you..
Stay away from those who would try to bring you down.